The Need for Community

I’ve been working from home for more than five years. It’s a wonderful thing that would be tough to trade for a commute and an office again.

That’s even more so with our little one in the house full-time. Between her and our nanny, it’s the first time I’ve had full-time “coworkers” in the same space for more than a few days. 10176249_10101285321352773_874860828545337944_n

That’s if you don’t include my cat. I certainly don’t.

I’ll be honest with you: it’s been nice to have human interaction between the hours of 7am and 6pm that didn’t involve going to a coffee shop or a Subway. As an introvert, I didn’t think I missed it but I did.

One of the things I love about working for The Starr Conspiracy is their liberal use of Google Hangouts. It’s actually nice seeing other people’s faces at least once a day.

The thing that was really weird about living in the Seattle area was how strangely cool people were and how genuinely nice people are here in Richland. We joked about the Seattle freeze until we actually lived there. When we walk out on the street or in the park away from there, people say hi and even the kids are friendlier.

I’m not making a value judgment but I will say that the last few months have opened me to the idea that I may need a local community. We’ve been so mobile in the past, it’s been easy to just forget about it and just have a few friends that we knew. Even though it’s tough to make friends after 30, who says it isn’t worthwhile?

We have a great community of friends back in Portland we’d love to get back to one day. I don’t know when that will happen, though. There’s no sense in waiting it out anymore.

2 thoughts on “The Need for Community

  1. Great post. As new parents, you will soon be surrounded by a community of other parents. Most of the friends we have are people we’ve met through our children over the years :).

  2. Lance, I really appreciate your acknowledging how difficult making new friends can be, especially after you get to “that age” where everyone has kids, but the kids are different ages, and commutes are weird, so finding time that works for everyone isn’t necessarily easy.

    And, I relate to what you’re saying about having a community you’d like to get back to. I keep harboring this secret hope that one day we’ll move closer to an existing community of friends and family, but what I’m realizing more and more is that it’s okay to put roots down here too. I think we felt so transitory for so long, I’m having to remind myself that this really is a more permanent move, and we’ll be here a while. It’s just time to accept that and start looking for people.

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